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Friday, September 28, 2012

TLC Blog Tour - Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher & Kid Needs to Know about Ending the Circle of Fear by Carrie Goldman

Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher & Kid Needs to Know about Ending the Circle of Fear
by Carrie Goldman
HarperOne (William Morrow)
ISBN: 978-0-06-210507-3
Buy from Indigo

Description: The mother of a bullied first grader, popular blogger Carrie Goldman's inspiring true story triggered an outpouring of support from online communities around the world. In Bullied, she gives us a guide to the crucial lessons and actionable guidance she's learned about how to stop bullying before it starts. It is a book born from Goldman's post about the ridicule her daughter suffered for bringing a Star Wars thermos to school--a story that went viral on Facebook and Twitter before exploding everywhere, from and to sites all around the world. Written in Goldman's warm, engaging style, Bullied is an important and very necessary read for parents, educators, self-professed "Girl Geeks," or anyone who has ever felt victimized by a bully, online or in person.

The Good Stuff
  • Practical real life information written in easy to understand language - unusual as most of bullying stuff I have read is overly scholarly without real life solutions
  • Lots of real life situations that readers can learn from and understand
  • Incredible amount of research was put into this
  • Index extremely thourogh
  • Fabulous detailed Resources list and Reading recommendations for children
  • Interesting relavant statistics
  • Lots of positivity and hopeful messages
  • Fantastic emphasis that their are wonderful people and resources on the internet for kids - many of these books only talk about the negativity for social interactions on the internet when their are fabulous supportive people out their to connect with
  • Highlights the types of kids who are at risk for being bullied
  • Heartfelt - you can tell the author just really wants to help & uses her real life experiences
  • Really makes you take a look at yourself and how just you can help make a difference
  • Learned some fantastic ideas that I can use to help Jake deal with the bullying he has been experiencing
The Not So Good Stuff
  • Some of the stories sickened me and the thought that kids can be so horribly cruel scares the living hell out of me -- especially as my child (he has spina bifida & wears a diaper) is a child that is at very high risk for bullying
Favorite Quotes/Passages

"All too often, scholars conduct their research studies and disseminate their findings to other scholars and rarely attempt to translate their findings into practical solutions for schools. Thus, this academic isolation or elitism leaves the practioners questioning the commitment of researchers to impart real-world solutions to prevent bullying."

"In a time when parents are all fired up about the Internet tearing their kids down, I experienced quite the reverse; my child was lifted up and bolstered by online support."

"But the reality is, many of our own children are doing the bullying, and we need to acknowledge this. It starts with examining our behaviour as parents and role models. We can have a huge impact on how our children act, simply by being aware of the subtle messages we send through our conversations and body language, through our parenting styles and home environments, because children learn about social relationships at home and bring their knowledge into school."

Who Should/Shouldn't Read
  • A must read for all teachers, parents, kids - in other words practically everybody
  • Perfect for any family that has had to deal with this behavior & perfect timing for me as my child is being bullied
  • This needs to be in every school, library and house
4.75 Dewey's

I received this from TLC Tours in exchange for an honest review

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About the Author

Carrie Goldman blogs about issues related to adoption and parenting for, the online community of the Chicago Tribune. She has been featured on,, HuffPost Parents,, and other top parenting sites. Goldman received her B.S. from Northwestern University and her M.B.A. from the Kellogg School of Management. She lives in Illinois with her husband and three daughters.
Connect with Carrie on Twitter.

Carries Tour Stops

Friday, September 7th: Moments of Exhilaration
Tuesday, September 18th: Voracious For Books
Wednesday, September 19th: The Girl Revolution
Thursday, September 20th: Surviving the Madness
Saturday, September 22nd: A Life Sustained
Monday, September 24th: Between the Covers
Tuesday, September 25th: Heres To Not Catching Our Hair On Fire
Wednesday, September 26th: Library of Clean Reads
Thursday, September 27th: Misbehavin Librarian
Thursday, October 4th: she treads softly
Date TBD: GeekMom/TotalFanGirl
TBD: Being 5
TBD: Mommy Uncensored


  1. I do am sickened by the thought of my own son being bullied like this. He has severe food allergies and an esophageal disorder, and had a feeding tube from age 7 to age 9. I am so thankful that he has an upbeat personality and good friends and that he has never been bullied or teased, but I fear that it may happen down the road (hes 10 now).

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this book for the tour. It sounds like one that every parent should read.

    1. I definitely think its a must read. Glad that your son has such good friends makes it so much easier for him & crossing my fingers it never happens : )

  2. (That should have started with "I too am...")

  3. Interesting perspective! Im surprised by the things this book has that others dont -- they seem necessary and obvious. I wonder if this book is different because it doesnt come from someone in the field, but rather, comes from a parent who was passionate enough to educate herself?

    Anyway, this is a fantastic review!

    1. Thanks and I think it makes it better that it comes from a non professional!!1

  4. This is Carrie Goldman, the author of the book, and I want to thank you (and TLC) for taking the time to review my book so carefully and thoroughly. I am very appreciative of your efforts to help spread the word about Bullied!

  5. You are very welcome Carrie - excellent book and thanks so much for such a relevant and practical book